Your Soul Mate

i always felt that a man is incomplete without a woman in his life. No matter how perfectionist he is. She holds a frame that is higher than that of a wife, your cook, your children's mother, an ideal daughter-in law to your family, she holds a frame of your best friend. I have always felt that a husband and wife need to be best friends. When you are friends things seem much easier coz it is easier to live with a friend than a relative.

I m not talking about men who completely rely on their wives right from their clothing to everything, who think that their wives are some unpaid servant and it is their responsibility to look after the house. But I m talking of men who understand the value of women in their life, who know that a woman is not just restricted to looking after kids or serving the family but a stage higher than that m talking about people who believe in the concept of equality and understand that her career as important as his own. Such men re hard to find, but they are present right near us. But just recognise them.

A women is very similar to a man in every aspect, say brains, career, knowledge, but there is just one thing that differs, where he sees through his brains, she looks through her heart. That is why they tend to be so emotional, although they look weak they aren't. They are sentimental but that is because of the overpowering love that resides in their hearts. She will go to any extent to make you happy, coz you define her family. When you think about yourself, you think about you, your career, your promotions and then your family. While for her, she starts with you, your family, your career and then hers. That is why after marriage the wife is always supposed to be on the right side...An Uncle of mine always jokingly said "the Wife is always on right, coz she is always right and never to be left"!!!

is this the world God created

Why do people cheat on others??? I never got an answer to this question ever...I mean how far would you go for earning money! Are ethics a forgotten chapter in human history.

When someone close to you cheats you, you start losing trust on that person as well as your own self,Whom to believe and whom not to becomes a great deal. You start losing confidence on your own judging power. Everthing seems a lie and each moment spent with that person seems like a plot..And all this just for money...

It feels sick to live in a world like this, where you are always surrounded by traitors and liars...You never know when your best friend could stab you in your back.

Thats the way it is!!!

Is this the world God created, with so much hatred around,
So much so that Greed and desire has left man Spellbound;

This is not the world God created, but the hell we created!!!

Independence: Is it becoming a menace!!!

I could never fathom this word called "Independence"... The other day my neighbour's teenage daughter was screaming at the pitch of her voice saying she wanted Independence...Independence from what?????

Does being independent mean staying alone, or coming home late at night and yet not being questioned. Is it spending money lavishly without having to account it...Is it forgetting our morals and acting wayward...

We have changed the meaning of the word Independence...What we expect now is running away from our responsibilities under pretext of the word independence. Do what ever you want to,but just not getting questioned. IS this what is independence...

I feel that independence is accepting your responsibilities and taking the complete burden of duties on your shoulder. Sleeping with a clear conscious every night and not having anything to prick you is independence. To live freely without any worries of being frisked away or creating any disturbance in your life is independence.

Just by earning a couple of thousands and spending it hopelessly is definitely not independence. It shows nothing but our insecurity.. It shows how we want to show the world that we are happy yet we are not matured enough to understand our responsibilities....

Money was created to be a part of our life and now we define our life from money..yet the funniest part is we say we are independent...And strangely, we call ourselves the most intelligent animal on Planet Earth!!!!

The beauty of God

I have heard a lot about lack of time, about how less time people have in life and how as a result they don't have time to look at the beauty of God...God is not some post-retirement hobby, or some exhibit you visit in a temple that you go for on your holiday..To remember God, you don't have to wait till your retirement...Lets actually think how we can see the almighty..He says you and I are one...Then we should be able to see Him in ourselves, in our neighbours among the people around us, amongst the life around us...Isn't it????

To understand the beauty of God, you have to see the tears glowing in the mother's eyes when she first sees her new-born baby, That is how God loves you...
Once you know how much He loves you, fast forward a few months, when a baby speaks for the first time, the happiness in the mother's eyes is the happiness and bliss bestows on you...
When you start walking, she teaches you the struggle slowly by letting
you fall down and then prides upon you when you walk carefully with your baby steps....
When you start playing around,she happily watches you win....And when you fall she rushes to fuss upon your wounds no matter how microscopic it is... this is the care of God....

When you reach your adult age she prides on your maturity, intellect and knowledge...When you get married she happily accepts another daughter in your wife...That is the nature of God....

Why do you go searching for God, when He is present in front of you as your parents....Why wait for retirement, He doesn't hesitate to help you even before you were born....God is very beautiful, realize Him....The day everyone starts seeing God in their parents, that day we can proudly close down all Old- age refuge homes...

When every parent adopts an orphan, that day we can shut all orphanages...Coz every child requires a parent and no parent is complete without a child....So we must understand that the next time we speak harshly to our parents' we are hurting God!!!

Dreams

I always felt that I could never be satisfied with my performance....That my performance could be better...Something which would grow everyday with me, with situations...I never dreamt of how elated or how happy I would be when I win or fulfill them....I used to always push myself further...99.99 was not good enough for me...I always wanted to be a 100%.....But today I m feeling elated more than satisfied...I felt as if my Lord had blessed me...He protected me and warded off an evil hand even before it could touch my dreams.....When you are sincere towards your efforts, when u have given Ur best He takes over from there!!!

I m talking of a small goal that I could achieve with the Almighty's grace and blessings...But now there still lies a long way to go....I just hope that life still supports me and my goal...

i will sit back relaxed the day I finally reach my goal...The day I could look back and be relieved of my duties...It is finally time to achieve the best in my life...time has come when I put my best foot down....The time where I put in all my efforts to live my dreams...


I spun a dream with lot of stars and diamonds...I weaved it around and lined it with the best sequins and laces...Now it has started showing its beauty, as the beauty in its mirrors shine, I see a glimpse of my satisfaction....Is this what they call ecstasy, is this what they call success, is this what is the call bliss!!!

The big Question???

i was talking to a friend of mine and suddenly the topic of marriage arised..She ws saying that a person should get married only if they find an exactly similar personality...Think about it..Are you going to spend the rest of your life with your own mirror image...

the kind of person i am i cannot...i think of all important things is understanding...A marriage without understanding is like body without soul...Marriage is a beautiful relation of commitment between two individuals who promise to witness each other's lives in ups and Downs...To hold hands and walk along together in the path of life....Marriage is not an obligation but a gift from the Lord...

In our culture, Marriage is considerd auspicious...It is because marriage opens gates to unite two families from vivid culture and tradition to come together...

To me marriage is a joy the ultimate commitment...More than everything the person you marry should be your friend..No relation is complete without Love...Love after marriage is fine...But to me when i marry a person i must deeply love him...

There is no right age or right time to marry..It is all the time the Creator has decided for your meet with him...the day u meet and u like him, u have already married him...Then what follows is the social and moral commitment....


But thats of course my view...Every one has a different approach to marriage...But to me it will be the ultimate decision in my life!!!!

My best friend!!!

Why does human have to have some bad faces…Why does a person you love so much hurt you….why is it that you feel a pain in your heart when someone you love says something that pinches you!!!!
There is a person who is very close to my heart…She is the centre of my life…The only person whom I proudly say is my best friend…when this person hurts me I can’t bear it….i have never told that person what is it about them that hurts me….Any person who hurts her is my enemy, I can break boundaries to protect her…Her well-wisher is my best friend….Her wish is my command….She is God’s gift to me….But when she hurts me it kills me the most…Maybe she will never understand what she means to me…Maybe I will never tell her that…If I tell her that she hurt me she will feel bad about it because it is completely without her knowledge that she does that….she would not even in her dreams hurt me or offend me…

Today I felt bad because she was the one who encouraged a habit actually a talent according to her… but when I requested her to have a look she refused saying she didn’t have time…She wasn’t very busy just reading some mails forwarded to her…They were interesting but my thing was more important…All these years I used to wait for her to have one glance at me…She is strange, when I am away she used to talk to me for hours…When I am near her, she doesn’t have time for me…That’s the way she is…I am very possessive about her…For she is all I have…When I find her giving too much time to someone else I become crabby…I just can’t share her with anyone…That’s why maybe she hurts me the most!!!
But still she is & will always remain my best friend for ever.....

Raksha Bandhan!!!

Raksha bandhan is a very beautiful festival celebrating the purity and the love in the relation between a brother and a sister...The sister ties a rakhi around the wrist of her brother and prays for his well-being and prosperity while the brother promises to protect her from all evils and ensure her safety...As we south-indians do not celebrate this festival I initially had no idea about it...But when i stayed in Pune I truely understood the meaning of raksha bandhan...i had lot of bhaiyas in Pune who were either elder to me or felt a brotherly affection towards me...they were so wonderful and nice to me!!! In my initial years I was compltely alone...And they used to take me aroun on weekends to restaurants...And dote on us just like an elder brother would....They would scold me on my marks...Sometimes they would not even speak to me if i misbehaved...They were my advisors, my strength and my support....there have been times when they really protected me...if I were not well they would keep calling me time to time to ensure I was ok....Today they have all left for their jobs and I have absolutely no contact with them...But I miss them and like every raksha bandhan i will keep a rakhi aside for them and pray for their sucess...they came from nowhere and made a relation, an unbreakable bond of love....i miss you bhaiyas....truely and deeply....

Happiness is in Selflessness

Selfless; Think about it...what exactly is it..Is it being very modest and meek and yet think proudly of oneself within...Is it doing a lot of social work and then expecting to be praised and honoured or is it doing hardwork and expecting materialistic results rather than being contented with your work!!! It is neither of the above stated...Selflesness means dealing with your work as a gift from God...Work as if you are doing it for God and at the end surrender everything at His Lotus Feet without thinking about the results....Tough is it!!! But there are standing examples of people who have done it and earned the kingdom of God.. Something related I wrote in this blog:
http://nandinidiw.blogspot.com/2005/12/merry-christmas.html

Christ gave up his life so we could live…this is selflessness…We are getting selfish day by day....the creator gave all good virtues to us so we could love Him all through our lives… forget Loving Him we can’t think about anybody else other than our own selves…where is this leading us…aren’t we getting worser day by day….If we could just take a few steps maybe we can make the World a better place and safer for our younger generations…..